This week’s blog series we will be discussing the pro’s of a controversial wedding subject, “Whether or not the bride and groom should see each other before the wedding.” This topic can be a real heated debate among brides & grooms, family and friends.
Before we begin exploring this debate, please take into consideration this author’s disclaimer. As a planner, I firmly believe that it is up to you to make the final decision whether to see or not see each other. It makes me, nor any other wedding vendor (namely the photographer) any difference on how you would like your wedding day to unfold. This series is going to be based upon real couples and experiences that we see every weekend. I encourage you to read with an open mind, however you should make your final decision that works best for you and your fiance/finacee.
how did this tradition start?
To put this debate into perspective, it may help to know how this tradition started. It came directly from when marriages were arranged by parents. The first time the bride and groom EVER saw each other was literally at the altar.
Kinda makes this time-old and cherished tradition a bit silly, no? There is no such thing as, “It’s bad luck to see the bride before the wedding.” Some egghead made that saying up and it has totally stuck. The person should get residuals every time someone says it!
So tomorrow, we’re going to explore ways to see each other before the wedding, but still make it something special and not just another typical day.
featured photo credit: andrew robertson photography
Continue to part two of this series…
1 thought on “seeing each other before the wedding ceremony :: part one”
Actually, the parents who arranged the wedding didn’t want the couples to flee if they didn’t like the looks of each other. That’s why they kept them separate. But there is a story in the bible about Jacob, Rachel, and Leah and why it is important to see each other before the wedding so you won’t be tricked into marrying the wrong person (That’s where the lifting of the veil tradition comes from).