your office workers aren’t invited to your wedding…

This is a timely subject as I have had several clients who have asked me how to manage their office workers and their wedding guest count. For many people, their jobs afford them to know a lot of people. Take hospitals for instance, you will not only work with many people but will become closer because of life and death situations.

The problem is, you can’t afford to invite 200 office workers, plus all your family and friends (on both sides). Financially, in most cases, it’s just not possible.

So what do you do? Here is a few ideas:

Stick to your guns.

If you aren’t inviting any office workers do not waiver and start to feel bad and then invite someone. The word will spread..

Shhhhhh!

If you are only inviting a few colleagues, then mention to them to please not talk about it with others. Explain that while you wish you could invite everyone, you are constrained by the size of your reception venue.

Preparation is key.

Be prepared for someone to ask if they are invited (the audacity of this still shocks me, but trust me it will happen). Rehearse your answer and be prepared. You may respond, “We would love to be able to invite everyone, but unfortunately our venue and budget will not allow it. I’m sure you understand“. Then be quiet. Don’t keep talking and going on and on or try to explain why you invited co-worker Betty and not co-worker Sally. You’ll dig a grave. Just be quiet, smile and hopefully your cell phone will ring to take your attention elsewhere. Secretly you can be pleased with yourself for not inviting someone who is rude enough to ask.

Again, shhhhhh!

If you are not inviting a lot of people from your office, then quit talking about your wedding. Just stop. Save it for your friends and family, people who will actually get to see your plans.

This will always be an awkward situation, especially if you have been invited to other co-worker weddings. The best advice I can give is have a plan and stick to it. It’s the best you can do.

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  1. elau
    elau says:

    THANK YOU! I’m getting married in Italy in a couple years (yes, 2 years — it’s far away, literally, after all) and a coworker sat down with me and said excitedly, “You HAVE to invite me to your wedding! I SO want to go to Italy! I’ve never been!” I stuttered something out about, “oh, we’ll see…um, you know with the Euro the way it is…we’re really cutting the guest list…” So, THANK YOU for validating my shock.

    Now if only “friends” and acquaintences would stop inviting themselves to our wedding. It gets so awkward when a couple we like but with whom we are “new” friends tell us at a party, “We really, really want to go to your wedding.” For financial reasons, we’re trying so hard to keep the wedding to close friends and family. My fiance swears we’re going to lose friends over this. I tell him, if that’s the case, they weren’t our friends in the first place!

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  2. elau
    elau says:

    THANK YOU! I’m getting married in Italy in a couple years (yes, 2 years — it’s far away, literally, after all) and a coworker sat down with me and said excitedly, “You HAVE to invite me to your wedding! I SO want to go to Italy! I’ve never been!” I stuttered something out about, “oh, we’ll see…um, you know with the Euro the way it is…we’re really cutting the guest list…” So, THANK YOU for validating my shock.

    Now if only “friends” and acquaintances would stop inviting themselves to our wedding. It gets so awkward when a couple we like but with whom we are “new” friends tell us at a party, “We really, really want to go to your wedding.” For financial reasons, we’re trying so hard to keep the wedding to close friends and family. My fiance swears we’re going to lose friends over this. I tell him, if that’s the case, they weren’t our friends in the first place!

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