So I was out at a charity event this evening raising money for Riley Children’s Hospital and ran into one of my brides from last year. I can’t say who, because we are about to get personal.
She was telling me about this wedding that she was asked to be a matron of honor (again, I don’t want to say who). When she received the invitation it was clear that each guest was to send in $25 per person to pay for their meals.
My jaw dropped. Unfortunately it gets worse….not only are guests expected to pay for their own meals, but also for any morsel of moisture (er, drink) that they will have. Soda, beer, wine, or alcohol. Nothing is being provided gratis.
Remember when planning your wedding, you should never ask a guest to pay for a meal and you should always provide SOME time of liquid refreshment at no charge. You would never invite someone over to your home, feed them a nice dinner, give them a drink and then give them a tab.
Please never consider this as an option. Reduce your guest list. Reduce your food choices. Elope. Have a party. Invite everyone over for a BBQ. But don’t ask your guests to pay for their meal and all their drinks.