problems with your wedding vendors …

Your wedding is one of the most important days you’ll remember. And let’s face it, it is an expensive day.  Even with meticulous planning, situations may occur (okay, go wrong) and it is directly because of one of your wedding vendors.

If you read this blog, you know, we keep it real here.

When these things happen, it’s easy to get very upset. We get that. That’s is why it is so important to hire professional vendors. Businesses that have experience and the means to make sure that your day goes smoothly and wonderfully.

However, there are situations that can make things go terribly wrong.

when planning your special day, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  1. Vendors are human. Which means they are not perfect (hate that word). There are unforseen health problems. Workers that don’t show up. Product that doesn’t get shipped. On a personal note, we had two weddings planned a couple of days after the death of my father (clients never knew), worked with a broken toe and a fever of 102 degrees. You cannot plan for these situations, but you must get the job done.
  2. Have realistic goals for your wedding. It will not be perfect, because there is no such thing. It can, however, be one of the best and most memorable days of your life.
  3. Get things in writing. A caterer may verbally agree to have 18 waitstaff to assist with serving your wedding guests. But if it is verbal and you have a concern, then you need to make sure you get it in writing. Always, get it in writing. I cannot tell you how many times I have worked with sales people at venues/catering that promise services but then they are no longer employed by the time the wedding is there. They promise this and that. But if it is verbal, you do not have a leg to stand on.
  4. Sometimes it’s out of our control. Inclement weather and acts of God is usually written into contracts. Rain plans with no tents, no additional electricity provided and so on. We do the best we can under the circumstances that are dealt to us. You should keep that in mind when hiring and planning your wedding.
  5. Vendors are not mind readers. If you are not happy during your wedding then communicate. Sometimes (not all the time) vendors are capable of fixing what is bothering you. But if we don’t know about it until Monday after your celebration, then there is not much anyone can change at that point.
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why we didn’t hire a wedding planner … but wish we would have

Sometimes there is little debate about hiring a wedding planner BEFORE the wedding. But after the wedding it’s a different story.

While this does appear to be self-serving, this was one of the most well-thought out articles that I have ever read! And I’ve read a lot on this subject. In fact, it made me stop to think, “Hey, we DO help with that”!

here are a few favorite excerpts:

Contrary to what I had thought, hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean outsourcing your entire wedding; a wedding planner only handles what you want them to (support at the start to get you on the right track, on-the-day coordination only, or indeed the whole shebang) so won’t take over and choose your final bouquet design for you.

During our engagement, several recently married friends told me that in the final month before the wedding they had been so exhausted that they just wanted the day to be over. This ended up being true for me: in the final week I lost five pounds from stress, burst into tears a few times and my groom and I were snapping at each other. Bringing on board a professional planner to help and take some of the workload off our hands definitely would have made sense (and they probably could have given advice on managing family drama).

Despite thinking that researching vendors ourselves was the only way to ensure we could make the best supplier decisions, this didn’t work out so swimmingly. Out of 15 or so wedding day vendors, there were only three that we were actually totally happy with… and some others we were extremely unhappy with.

Things went wrong at the last minute. Tiny things, but they were unnecessary and brought a general feeling of stress on a day my groom and I had planned to be lovely and relaxing. Someone to handle those details for us would have been amazing.

And many more awesome and poignant points. Check out the full read here. Thank you Reflective Bride for the awesome read!

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one week before your wedding …

Listen up, my lovely clients. You’ve planned your wedding and now it is here! One week before your wedding, baby, ONE WEEK!

be sure to do these five things on the last week of your wedding

  1. Make lists. Get it all out of your head and dump it onto paper, phone reminders, whatever. And share it with your wedding planner. You will forget things if they aren’t written out.
  2. Chill out. Go get a massage. Go to the movies. Work out. Do something for yourself that has nothing to do with the wedding.
  3. Large storage bin. Put it your living room and start putting all your personal wedding stuff inside it as you come across the items. This will be brought to the church/reception on Friday. Easy to forget stuff if your wedding information is all over the place.
  4. Pamper yourself. Get that manicure. Take a nap when you’re exhausted. Don’t feel guilty. Take time off work!
  5. Accept help. For some this is the hardest. Whether it’s calling your wedding planner or asking family to do something for you, including running a quick errand. DO IT! Delegate!
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planning your wedding too early …

Is there such a thing? Being too organized?

Wedding planning is a process, it takes time. No reason to rush and no reason to get ahead of yourself. Sometimes we find that clients will change their minds too often or second guess their choices.

Or simply, even though it started out to be a really fun project, after 15 months of planning … you’re just, well, over it.

So pace yourself. Don’t get mad at yourself if you have missed deadlines. Sometimes it’s better to put forth concentrated effort and is often more productive.

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meeting wedding vendors during the holidays

This blog post should have entitled, “TRYING to meet your wedding vendors during the holidays”. Because that’s really the way it is.

We understand, holidays is when you are off work or when you have a scheduled vacation/visit in town. Makes sense that you would like to try to knock out some meetings and get some wedding planning work done.

However ….

Please know, for most wedding vendors (your caterers, florists, bakers, DJ’s, venues) may be at the busiest. Especially if they service all types of clients, not just weddings. They are swamped, tired and here is a little known secret, sometimes cranky and stressed out.

Now they may be able to fit you in, especially if you have reserved the meeting way in advance. But please don’t be disappointed if you are cruising into town and they aren’t able to fit you into your schedule. There are only so many hours in the day and holiday parties will take priority over choosing your menu for your June 2014 wedding. They hope you will all understand.

So if possible, our advice is to wait until you can have their undivided attention. Take a break from the planning. Spend some time with your family and friends. Drink some egg nog and have a second piece of pie.

With that said, WE are available on the Saturday after Thanksgiving … we have a few slots open right now. So give us a call! 812.250.1968 or email at staff(at)

Happy Holidays!

ps This is such a good post, that we wrote something similar in 2008.

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