COMMUNITY MARRIAGE BUILDERS is having a fundraising dinner at Applebee’s (East Side, Morgan Ave. in Evansville, Indiana) on May 21st. If you present the flyer to your server on that day when you eat, Applebee’s will donate 15% of your bill to Community Marriage Builders.
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In five short days, it will be Valentine’s Day. The universal day of love. We know that many of you will be getting engaged that day or weekend.
And if you aren’t getting proposed to this weekend, then why not? Are you waiting for him to ask? Perhaps, YOU should do the asking!
Let’s think it through:
- It’s 2009 for goodness sake. Think of how many women just 50 years ago would have loved the opportunity to feel so liberated?
- Do you really have the patience to wait for him to pop the question?
- It would certainly be a surprise.
- You’re a strong woman with an education and career; you make everything else happen….why not in your private life?
- You’ll find out just how he really feels about “the equality issue” by his reaction.
- To not entirely emasculate him, propose in private and not in front of all his friends and family.
Actually, I’m surprised this isn’t a hot trend!
Important Question: if a girl asks the guy to marry, then who buys the engagement ring?Read More »
I had the most amazing, impromptu date with my husband last night. Nothing spectacular; we just had drinks and talked for 5 hours. We talked about us, our son, family, business, politics, religion, colleagues, money, how we want to be when we are old (I’ve been notified that my husband will be an ‘old flirt’ when he’s 80 – thanks for the warning, honey) and philosophical issues such as helping the world.
After being married all these years (we’ll celebrate our 16th anniversary in July), I’m still amazed on how we work together. Marriage is a tricky business, the hardest “job” you’ll ever have (besides parenting). It’s a life long career that requires dedication, humor and patience.
So today, if you will indulge me, I’m going to share my own experience on sustaining your marriage:
- Tolerance; We are accepting of each others faults, quirks, opinions and the fact that there are some things that we cannot or will ever, change about each other. And that’s okay.
- Intimacy; Not marital relations, but really connecting with your loved one by hugging, touching, looking into their eyes when they speak. Say, “I love you” every time he/she leaves or when you end every phone call. We do.
- Establish Ground Rules for Arguments; This is huge! No name calling, throwing things, hitting or kicking walls, etc. Stick to the subject of the argument and then don’t hold a grudge. Try hugging after you’ve yelled at each other, you’ll see a different perspective.
- Put your Spouse First; We’re a team. If we had to choose, we choose each other. Every time. That’s over parents, siblings, family or friends. Interestingly, if you set those boundaries, no one ever asks you to break them.
Thanks for listening.
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An accurate timeline can be your best friend before the wedding. Writing down all of the events and knowing the arrival times for your wedding party and vendors will let you have a peaceful wedding.
At planning…forever events we are well-known for our wedding timelines and production schedules. I will admit, when we first started five years ago we had very detailed times, such as; 2:55pm – Exit Church. Looking back I have to laugh a bit.
Now when we sit with our clients for consults we can basically tell them within 15 minutes of how their wedding will flow and how long it will take to serve dinner, cut the cake, toasts etc.
One last thought: you never want to be a “Timeline Natzi” at a wedding. Yes it is good to know the flow of events and keep to some time structure, but never at the expense of you enjoying your day or taking in those special moments!Read More »