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Reader Question: What is the time that the wording changes from “..in the afternoon” to “…in the evening” on my wedding invitation?

Event Engineer Answer: I won’t lie, this stumps me too. I did a little research just to be clear and continued to be stumped. The most accurate answer to this question would be sundown=evening. But in the real world, we don’t call 7pm in the summer “afternoon” when sundown is around 8:30pm, do we?

So the general consensus is that after 6pm, you may consider that evening. It’s a general rule of thumb. Thanks for the question! If anyone has anything better to add here…we’d love to hear it!

Plan on! -saundra

It came to my attention that our blog doesn’t work in all the browsers! This was unfortunately realized while I was sitting with a potential client. We’ve tried hard to fix the situation, but we are still having a few difficulties with Internet Explorer 6.0. (if you notice the first post is pushed way down on the home page. yikes!)

So as a public announcement and wanna-be-geek-like, I thought it would be a good idea to update everyone on possible browsers you could use to surf the net! This is our take on the situation, right or wrong.

Internet Explorer 7.0

Fact: 60% of our users use Internet Explorer. While 63% are using IE 7.0 the remaining are using IE 6.0.

The most common browser out there, mostly because it comes automatically with your PC and most users simply don’t change it. True story: Microsoft owns the PC world. It’s a lot more stable that Explorer 6.0. So if you haven’t upgraded, you really should. You can do so right here. It’s a HUGE improvement over IE6.0.

However, what most users don’t know is the massive amounts of spyware an IE browser puts onto your computer, slowing it down to a point where you want to throw your mouse across the room. Hopefully you have wireless one.

If anyone doesn’t know what spyware is….to put it simply, think of them as orange construction cones. Imagine a hundred of those in your house right now. Try to walk from your kitchen to the living room. You have to manuever around the cones. Same thing with your computer processor, it slooooooooows it down and sometime can have viruses.

Mozilla Firefox:

Fact: 31% of our users use Firefox as their web browser.

Mozilla is my preferred browser which I use on my desktop (and what I’m looking at right now typing this post). Mozilla was introduced to challenge Windows monopoly in the market with their Explorer browser. Competition is always good. So Mozilla hates Explorer and Explorer returns the favor and hates Mozilla. (Just look at their logo…hehe).

A more stable browser, they were first to come up with opening new windows as “tabs” (at least in the PC world). This browser is NOT a fan of spyware and will block pop up windows, etc. Download it, and stick with it for about two weeks. You’ll NEVER go back to Explorer. Don’t worry bookmarks are easily imported. And they always are coming up with free add-ins to download that makes your web surfing easy!

Download this baby right here!

Safari:

Fact: 7% of our users use Safari as their web browser.

Safari is a web browser that was built for Mac’s. You gotta love Mac users. They know they have a superior product and they don’t mind rubbing it in everyone’s face. They are like the cool sorority you always wanted to pledge for. I would personally switch in a heartbeat but all my purchased and pirated software is PC based. I don’t want to start over!

Anyway, Safari is now out for PC’s. I use it on my laptop and REALLY like it. But I won’t lie, it is very Mac’ish in design. For most people, it would be difficult to make the change. But…………it is Ferrari fast. Compared to IE which is like a Hybrid car….there is simply no comparison.

Download it here, and just try it out!

There is also Netscape (yawn) and Opera (don’t know much about it and frankly, not really interested). Best thing that all these browsers are free, so you can try them out. You can also read reviews of all these browsers here. It’s written so it won’t hurt your head!

Surf on! - saundra

I had a client ask me the other day who is planning her wedding around a Monogram theme. She asked me, "Which first initial goes first? The bride’s or the grooms?"

So we decided to ask you! The poll just ended and an overwhelming 87.5% said that the BRIDE’S first name initial goes first and only 12.5% thought it would be the GROOM’S first name initial should be first.

Think of it like this…..in etiquette, isn’t it always ladies first?

Check out our new poll!!

Plan on! -saundra

If you were given a ring like this one over here (thanks Mrs. Kristin Fielder Buehn for showing off your bling for this post), would you give it back if the engagement came to an abrupt end?

Once the tears have dried up, the age old question becomes:

Who gets the engagement ring?

Does the bride get to keep it or should it be given back? I’ve heard many different etiquette answers to this very important question.

Scenario A:

Some say if the groom calls off the engagement, then she can keep the ring. But if the bride calls off the engagement, then the ring must be returned.

Scenario B:

I had to break out the etiquette book for this scenario. [blowing dust off the pages]

Peggy Post says this; "If an engagement is broken, the bride should immediately return the ring (unless it is an heirloom of her family). There is some debate as to whether the ring should be returned if the man is the one who broke the engagement. It makes more sense to return it, why keep this painful reminder of the end of an engagement just to be spiteful? It’s better to take the high road — move on". source: Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette, Fourth Edition, page 12.

Uh, Peggy….some brides sell the ring for moola. 

One caveat she brings up; "If the groom should pass away before the wedding takes place, and the ring is not a family heirloom, then the bride may keep her engagement ring".

Scenario C:

Lawyers would question, (you gotta love lawyers…sooo romantic); "What constitutes a gift"?

Some may argue if the ring is given during a holiday (Christmas, Valentines, etc) then it may be assumed that this is a "gift" which means it does not have to be returned.

Another viewpoint: courts may consider the ring a legal gift if these three things happen: 1. the donor (the person who gave the ring) showed the intent to give the ring as a gift, 2. the delivery of the ring from the donor to the donee (the person receiving the ring) and finally, 3. the donee’s acceptance of the ring.

Are we feeling warm and fuzzy yet? Not done….

Scenario D:

Courts may view the ring to be "conditional gift". That if the event (wedding) does not occur, then the donor has the right to get the ring back. Some women (obviously those who want to KEEP the ring) argue that receiving the ring was upon acceptance to the proposal of marriage, not necessarily the completion of the marriage ceremony.

Here’s a crazy idea. Be careful who you ask to marry you. Sheesh.

Love to hear what YOU have to say about this?

Plan on! -saundra

ps Thanks Sally for the idea…..

Notice anything different? We changed the blog to 3-column. Nothing news worthy….just tired of the looooooooooooooooong web page. Hope it looks better.

This is temporary though…we are working on a total website design overhaul to planning…forever and our blog. We’ll actually be moving it. I get tired just thinking about it. But am excited about the new website design.

Well gotta scoot - coordinating an outdoor wedding and going to have to spray OFF on my clothes and myself. Don’t you think outdoor wedding venues should spray their own grass for mosquitoes?

I do.

Plan on! -saundra

On today’s Fox 7 TV Segment with anchor person Sarah Brownlee we talked about a serious growing subject, PND or Post Nuptial Depression. I’ve touched on this subject about a year ago and thought it would be a good idea to bring it up again.

It is estimated that 1 out of 10 brides suffer from some type of depression after their wedding. I believe it, even if it is just a minor feelings (I’m sure not everyone is rocking back and forth in the closet). I have had brides call me after the wedding to tell me they can’t believe it’s over and it’s kind of a let down.

It’s not that these brides love their weddings more than their husbands. Not at all. I think planning a wedding is so time consuming that it can consume your life for a bit. And then when it flies by in one day; your left with working, home life, new husband …. it can be a underwhelming!

So what can you do?

1. Have down time during the wedding planning process. Have checklists, get some work down and then put it away for a month or so. Don’t worry about it. It’s okay to want to make sure your wedding day is the best day possible, but be very aware that it is not the ONLY best day you will have in your life.

2. Tell your new husband how you’re feeling. I think men don’t realize how much they can really help with our moods and help pull us out of a funk. He should know you better than anyone else - so by helping and being supportive, can really help!

3. Focus on other projects. Idol hands concept! Paint your new house. Volunteer at a charity. Join a new networking group. Buy a puppy…that will occupy your time and make you feel good!

Plan on! -saundra

picture from manolobrides.com