rude, rude, rude
What is UP with guests who are invited to a wedding? <brace yourselves for a rant>
You should know I have clients of all types, ethnics, religions, and financial backgrounds. In one year I could be planning a wedding with a budget of $5k to $100k.
With that said, I continue to see guests RSVP to the wedding and then NOT show. And I have to say this occurs mostly with my budget conscious brides (or maybe I am more aware of that because I know what they had to do to scrimp and save for the wedding).
When you do not show up to the wedding do you know how much you are costing the bride and groom? Let’s see: dinner, table cloth, table, chairs, centerpiece, cake, drinks, favors, plates, silverware, glasses, ceremony programs, and host cards are just to name a few of the variable costs that go into EVERY guest that is accounted for attending.
So when we expect 250 guests and only see about 200 people with several open tables, I am dismayed. Do you know how much extra food we have afterwards? What about the fact that the reception looks empty in areas?
Please, please, please….if you are invited to a wedding and have RSVP’d to attend….and something happens where that changes, let the bride and groom know. It’s polite. It’s proper etiquette.
And send your gift. You know, IF you receive an invitation…you have to send a gift!
<rant off>
Plan on! -saundra
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October 23rd, 2007 at
I was one of those brides. I had a ton of people tell me they would be there, how much they were looking forward to it, yada yada, and then not show up. After we got back from our honeymoon my mom called to tell me she found out why we had a lower than expected turn out. We had a rash of family illness. Two of my great uncles were in the hospital, one cousin (the head of that side of the family) was also in the hospital, and one dear friend’s father was in a car wreck that morning. They all eventually recovered, but I think we would have had more people if we had been married in the hospital chapel. You just never know what might keep people away.